Narcissistic Sense of Entitlement

Here is how I described yesterday's events, to a friend.

"Yesterday, I had a huge argument with R. We were talking about Cate's new nursery school. It's a cooperative nursery school wherein the parent(s) get to participate, about once a month, to be Teacher's Assistant for the day. The parents love it, the kids love it, and the nursery school is so awesome because of that. I picked the school for this reason. Leading up to that was of course all the legwork and weeks of trial&error finally culminating in her enrollment to that school. At one point doing the whole daycare thing and that not going well. Then back to finding a nursery school. I mean, it was a little stressful and took a lot of work and time. And on top of that, at every step of the way, Ron refused to contribute one red penny to help make it happen. At a certain point I became resigned to the fact that he is useless that way, and it became "acceptable" to me, because then at least, he'd be out of the picture entirely.

But on Friday, R says to me "so I assume you've included me in the schedule so I can be the Teacher's Assistant too?" I think I paused for about 3 seconds to wrap my brain the inconceivable-yet-conceivable outrageous chutzpah and narcissistic sense of entitlement this man was throwing so casually in my face ... and then I let it rip. Luckily, Cate was not in the area. I did manage to preface my tirade kindly (as kindly as one can with a clenched jaw), by saying "You know, there's a little expression, and it goes, YOU GOTTA PAY TO PLAY". And then without skipping a beat proceeded to go into rather colorful commentary and tirade about what I thought about him.

Well, I hope you don't think I'm an awful scary witch (it being Halloween and all) for doing that, because I think he deserved every insult I levelled at him, and honestly, because I was being purposeful about it. The goal was not to insult for the sake of insulting, but to convey to him the fact that that no one at the nursery school was looking kindly upon him, given his refusal to help pay, especially given my finances. Knowing that R is (deep down) hyper sensitive to what the public thinks of him (the public being anyone whom he cannot order around, either in his house, or on a job site), I am hoping what I told him about what the "public" thought of him, would discourage him from contacting anyone at the school to ask to be a parent participant."